Here at Seans Place, our aim is to improve mental health and well-being amongst men that are struggling. Predominantly, we do this through group sessions and working with individuals to reduce anxiety, depression, stress and isolation. This is a community where we really are all “in this together”, supporting each other every step of the way.
It’s no secret that men are perceived to be much better than women at hiding their feelings and emotions, sadly the statistics reflect this too with males accounting for over 76% of suicides. Through societal norms and the modern-day pressures that men are faced with, it can become increasingly difficult for a lot of men to manage their feelings and know where to turn too, in their time of need.
Through lived experience Sean’s Place was created following the loss of Sean to mental illness, Sean’s sister recently told of her struggle to find the support she needed for Sean in the community through a lack of knowledge of what support was available and also training to support her brother at home. This is why Sean’s Place has also developed a family support network to provide training and support to help support your loved ones at home.
We also want to give you some immediate tips in this blog post too, here a few things that may help when supporting someone who may be struggling with their mental health.
4 Ways To Support
Whether it’s anxiety, depression or other mental health conditions, the below points may help.. However, if your loved one requires immediate support or they’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, we urge you to seek immediate help and support by using the numbers at the bottom of the blog post or seeking professional help
- Create A Safe Environment
There is a common perception that “men don’t talk!”. However, at Sean’s Place we have found this isn’t the case, they often simply need the right space. You can help by providing a safe and open environment simply to listen without judgement.
- Let them know help is available and you could help them to find it,
- Also remind them they will get through this and these feelings won’t last forever.
- Let them know you are glad they have shared their thoughts with you, they may feel much less alone. He’ll also feel like he can confide in you.
- Have some resources such as useful services to hand and be ready to listen
- Say what you are going to do to help and stick to it
Please Don’t :
- Disregard their feelings, what seems minimal to you may be feeling huge for them,
- Don’t underestimate how difficult it is for them to share this information.
- Its tempting to look for a quick fix, however, you should not push them into social situations they may not be ready for.
Help Lifestyle Changes
Lifestyle habits play an integral part in mental health. Excessive alcohol intake, binge eating and drug usage can play a huge part in worsening mental health conditions, paranoia and anxiety. However, these habits can be extremely hard to break alone, especially once the cycle has become habitual. By encouraging a reduction of alcohol intake with your partner or loved one and substituting this for a half hour walk , you’ll be doing something healthy together that breaks negative patterns.
- Encourage Support
You would see a doctor if you had a broken arm. Your brain is no different. Seeking support is a sign of strength. However, it can be hard to ‘’admit’’ you may need professional help. You may offer to go with them to their first appointment. Consider what support they feel would help and perhaps ask them to write it down as saying it out loud may be difficult to do. They may like someone to talk to more such as a counsellor or it may be they would like some community support that the GP can signpost them to or may also be found on platforms such as Hub of Hope.
- Visit Sean’s Place
Sean’s place is open to support males over the age of 21.As a non-profit organisation, we’re passionate about helping men improve their mental health by providing sessions that are designed to improve confidence and self esteem to reduce anxiety, stress, depression and isolation. We will also help them to build a solid support network they can rely on. Every month, we also host a family support network. Here, you can join us to receive advice, training and support which will educate you further on how to support a loved one who may be struggling with their mental health.
Other useful resources can be found via http://www.hopeofhope.co.uk
As well as our team – at Sean’s Place – being here for you, here are a few other additional organisations that are worth looking into and calling if you need too:
Samaritans 116-123 24 hours per day
Shout Textline- Text HOPE to 85258 24 hours per day
CALM – For Men Aged 15 – 35 0800585858 (5pm-midnight 7 days per week)
Mental Health Foundation
Rethink Mental Illness